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Internet Overuse

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There is internet use and internet overuse.  You know you have entered the zone of internet overuse if you hear yourself saying any of the following to yourself:

  • I’m online so much, I’m losing my friends.
  • I’m online so much, I can’t make any friends.
  • It doesn’t matter because my online friends are better than my real-life friends ever were.
  • I’ll go online, where I won’t have to worry if people like me or not.
  • That’s not true. I worry about being liked online also.
  • When I think of getting off the computer, I get panicky.
  • I need the computer to get out of life. Real life is too messy. Real life is also boring.
  • I dread silence. In real life, I often feel like I don’t exist.
  • I see online that so many other people lead fantastic lives. What’s wrong with me?
  • Oh my God, how did I forget to eat? Drink? Sleep? Go to the bathroom? Move around?
  • I can’t stop myself from checking. I might miss something.
  • I totally have FOMO.
  • Something fantastic is going to happen online this time. It didn’t before, but this time it definitely will.
  • Nobody will hurt my feelings when I’m on my phone.
  • I can forget all my problems when I go online.
  • I love my smartphone. It’s becoming my best friend.
  • I’m not lonely. I can talk to so many strangers online.
  • I love going online because I can control how I interact with people so much better there.
  • I wonder if it bothered ______ when I checked my phone right after sex last night.
  • Why did ____ get so upset when I checked my phone at dinner last night?
  • I’m so in my head. Why can’t I stay in the present?
  • What was _____ trying to tell me?
  • What was I so excited about doing before?
  • I have no one to talk to and nothing to do. I’ll go online.
  • Am I really walking around depressed like _____ said I am?
  • Am I really walking around anxious and jittery like _____ and _____ said I am?
  • I crave something so much, but I don’t know what it is.
  • If I go on Amazon and click away, I’ll feel a lot better.
  • Everyone needs to escape every now and then, right?
 Is this you?

Is this you?

And to conclude, here is a message I saw on a t-shirt yesterday:

I don’t need any friends.
Yeah, neither do I.

If your use of technology and the internet is becoming a problem, you are not alone. Internet addiction is a real thing. The good news is, you can get your life back. Contact me.